Feb 19, 2018
There's been another mass shooting at a school. As a parent you may wonder how to help your children process these events.
Beyond what you find in studies and books, Fred Riley has some information gleaned from his real world work. He worked for years in the emergency room and was exposed to a lot people in crisis and trauma.
In response to trauma, youth can feel invincible. This might sound disturbing, but it's real. Your child might have a scenario worked out in their mind as to how they would survive or fight back. It probably wont' be realistic, but don't push back. Let them have those thoughts and feelings even if it sounds absurd. This is them processing information and feelings that are traumatic for them. It's normal.
They may isolate themselves but it may be to things that they do anyway like gaming or social media. They may even seem detached or unaffected by the traumatic events. Talk to them.
A third way youths respond to traumatic events is to try and be a fixer. They want to be a part of something and identify with it. They need to be together and congregate. We should allow them to do this. Make sure the setting is appropriate, but let them be together and share the experience. The trust they have will be with other kids, not adults.
After a tragedy, open the doors of your home to your children's friends. Order some pizzas and give them a safe place to gather and process and be together.
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