May 23, 2018
Kids triangulate. "Well Dad said...". They create a communication triangle between you and your spouse or another adult like a teacher.
This isn't a manipulation thing. This isn't evidence that your child is manipulative. It's just something kids do and you can watch for.
Watch for name dropping. That's when the child attributes a comment to another person. "Well Dad said..." is a classic example.
One thing you can do is tell your child that you check back in with your spouse. Make sure there is a good, open line of communication.
If you hear name dropping, make sure the lines of communication with the other adults are wide open.
Your child may also try to distract from the issue at hand. If you're discussing a privilege like going to a movie, they might say something like "you guys never let me do this". That gets you into a side issue regarding your parenting skills. You get into an over communication mode and the child can then say "so can I go?"
This is not your child being manipulative. This is natural behavior. They're trying to get their needs met and are exploring their options.
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