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Counseling On Demand

Feb 26, 2018

It's easy to point the finger at your partner, but here is something to look for in your own behavior that is probably seriously impacting your relationship.

It's a mindset that happens a lot as a relationship matures.  It's a thinking error.  It happens when we believe we're right in the relationship and the other person is wrong.

You make the mistake of believing that your product, what you sold to your partner, is the same as it was years ago.  It's not.  We all change.  Life changes us and our relationship changes us.  

There are four things that usually change in a relationship

1. We become a person of inaction

2. We expect things of our spouse

3. We become more rigid and less cooperative

4. We become a with holder.  

Maybe these things have happened to you.  Don't look at your partner.  Look at yourself.  This is a gut check.  You'll probably find the answer to this is 'yes'.

Here are a few changes you can make to improve things.

1. Take action.  Do chores, get off the couch, run errands, participate.  Be a person of action.

2.  Don't be an expecter, be a contributor.  Don't expect things of your partner, contribute to the relationship.

3.  Be more flexible.  Your brain will tell you that being flexible invites expectations by your spouse.  That's not the case.  Practice being agreeable and giving in.

4. Give.  That's more than contributing.  When you're a giver there's more thought.  Share and give of your feelings and opinions. That is a way of reinvesting.

Counseling on Demand offers expert level family and marriage counseling.  We all know that raising children and maintaining relationships can be tough.  Whether you're dealing with divorce, separation, abuse, or are just trying to get your family running at top speed, these episodes are invaluable. 

Counseling on Demand is helpful for keeping your mental health strong.  There is also great information for dealing with depression.  You can find Fred Riley him at Riley Individual, Family, and Marriage Counseling