May 25, 2018
Fred recently talked to a student about her reaction to the recent school shooting at Santa Fe High School in Texas. She was very calm and matter of fact. But she was calm in a way that didn't inspire a lot of confidence.
This kind of traumatic news is becoming common and normal for kids.
There are some things that parents and families can do to help our children even if public policy lags behind.
Our children need to see the importance of pulling together as a community and advocating for change. They need to feel our concern. Right now they probably don't see it.
In adolescence, you feel invincible. You might feel like you could take on a gunman. The reality is very different.
Watch for certain things in your children. Your child might become clingy or worried. Loud noises could disturb them. They're trying to process the news about the shootings.
They might be more quiet than normal. Get them talking. Don't ask questions, but instead make a statement. Don't say "does this bother you?". Say "This really bothers you". Let them correct you because they will.
In older kids, you might hear more joking and story telling. They might tell stories of what they would do. These are coping skills and it means they are affected. In a day or two they may be ready to talk.
So watch for your child to withdraw. Try to get them to verbalize. If they're more joking, bring it up after.
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