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Counseling On Demand

Dec 14, 2017

Christmas is a great time to look back on the year and take stock of where we are as individuals and families.  Fred Riley, the host of Counseling On Demand, has a list of 12 challenges that will help you finish the holiday a better person.

Don't do all 12, just pick a few that will fit you.  Share this list with friends and family and start 2018 on the right foot!

1:  Set Aside Distractions

The holiday season has so many distractions.  Even more than your normally busy life.  Instead of giving in to distractions, let them go.  Make time instead for your personal relationships.  Instead of extra shopping time, try extra time alone with people who are important to you.

2: Forget

Forget your differences with other people and focus on what you have in common.  For just a few days, forget the conflicts in your relationships.  You'll still need to work on them in the future, but just set them aside temporarily.

3: Remember

Remember loved ones you've lost to death or distance.  They can't be with you physically but you should still remember they love you and you love them.  That counts for a lot.

4:  Build New Relationships

You'll meet new people this holiday so reach beyond yourself and build a new relationship.  New friendships are exciting and energizing.  So make that a part of your holiday.

5: Rebuild a relationship

We all have damaged or lost relationships.  Choose one, and rebuild part of it.  Maybe someone mistreated you, or you mistreated someone else.  Either way, do something to start the repair process.

6: Share Yourself

There are people out there who need you.  So share yourself.  You may have a little extra money for someone struggling financially.  Or maybe you can be a friend or companion to the lonely.  Share your gifts and talents.

7: Give

Whatever you receive on Christmas, give more.  Give more than you receive.  It's a small thing, but you help generosity be the focus of the season.  Keep the balance sheet on the side of giving.

8: Find Joy In The Present

There is so much worry in the holiday.  Did you get the right gift?  Did you remember everyone?  Find something joyful right now, don't worry whether planned payouts of happiness will deliver the joy you need.

9:  Laugh At Your Fear

Laughter is healing.  We spend so much time being afraid, embarrassed or ashamed, use Christmas to laugh at the fears we have that are really silly.  This will go a long way in helping you forgive yourself for your own shortcomings.

10: Stop Something

Just bring it to a halt.  It can be anything.  Stop taking the same route to work.  Stop doing something the way you've always done it.  If you're feeling ambitious you can stop a bad habit.  But really it doesn't matter what it is.  The point is to change.

11: Start Something

Start something that makes you happy.  Something new.  Keep it real, and make it small if it helps you do it.

12: Take Time To Reflect

Take note of what you did well this year.  Reflect on the things that brought you happiness and joy.  If your first reaction is "there's nothing", look closer and look smaller.  What made you smile?  Whose company did you enjoy?  What did you do right?

You don't have to do all of these challenges, just pick a few that stand out to you.  You may still be broke from buying gifts, but you'll also be a better person.

Counseling on Demand is hosted by Fred Riley, also known as "The Best Damn Therapist".  Fred specializes in the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), pornography addiction, anxiety and depression.

Counseling on Demand offers expert level family and marriage counseling.  We all know that raising children and maintaining relationships can be tough.  Whether you're dealing with divorce, separation, abuse, or are just trying to get your family running at top speed, these episodes are invaluable. 

Counseling on Demand is helpful for keeping your mental health strong.  There is also great information for dealing with depression.  You can find Fred Riley him at Riley Individual, Family, and Marriage Counseling